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fuckoff-styles said: (1/2) i have a question: when "pro-abortion" people defend abortion, they sometimes say "you don't have to be ready for motherhood" & "you don't have to give away the next 18 years of your life," both of which i agree w/, but don't quite understand: why not just give the child up for adoption? if funds are a problem, many clinics can help pay, and some couples who wish to adopt will sponsor the girl and pay for everything....
(2/2) …. the girl still has to carry the baby to term (which isnt easy, and i dont wish to trivialize it: it is a very demanding and taxing ordeal) but isnt that better than an abortion? the baby gets to live and the mother can “continue” about her life (theres no question that she will be a changed person aftterwards. her family and social life will be affected as well) i apologize if im being rude in some way, but i am definitely curious as to what u have to say!”
First, I would like to say, you are not being rude in any way, and I greatly appreciate you asking my opinion on the matter rather than just attacking me for having the less popular opinion. So I respect your curiosity and am happy to oblige it (and I apologize in advance for the length of this response, but it is a very complicated issue).
The biggest thing I need to point out is that the movement is not “pro-abortion,” nor should it be. The idea is about choice; the freedom to choose what does and doesn’t happen to your body. You can drunkenly decide to get a tattoo; no one tells you that you do not have the right to also remove that tattoo. It all revolves around this concept called bodily autonomy, which long story short, is all about having the rights to do what you want with your body when you wish to; no one can, nor should be able to govern what you choose to do with your body. Preventing abortions directly interferes with a woman’s bodily autonomy, and that is one of my biggest problems with it.
Another major problem is our culture valuing one life more than another. Yes, it is up for debate at what point “life” begins, but for me, an even bigger point to make is which life has been invested in more? A young woman may have made one mistake (or a multitude of other explanations that were not in her control; a condom broke, she was raped, etc.), but does that deserve to negate everything else she has worked towards? Though pursuing the route of adoption is certainly viable, is does not avoid a great deal of the consequences that pregnancies (especially unintended ones) cause. She may be shunned, her family may disown her (depending on status of marriage and cultures), she may have medical complications (pregnancy can be a huge health risk for some women, and women today still die in childbirth), she may not be able to afford the costs of prenatal care (pregnancy is a huge expense, regardless of health insurance/financial assistance), and a multitude of other things. All of these various complications could severely damage the life she has currently built for herself, and I don’t think anyone should be forced to sacrifice the things they’ve put their hearts and souls into. And to say that she has to for the ‘life’ of another, ultimately is saying that a fetal life is more important than a full grown adult woman’s life, which I find highly distressing and deeply disturbing, considering one is a microscopic clump of cells (at the point of most abortions), and one is a breathing, living, loving fully developed person. I do not mean to trivialize the value and importance of life, no matter its maturity, but when women’s lives are put last in any and all circumstances, our culture has a serious problem.
Which brings me to another important aspect; women will always have abortions. Currently one in three women have had an abortion, and as long as women are incapable of 100% preventing pregnancy when sexually active, I think it’s safe to say, there will always be women seeking abortions. By trying to prevent abortions via legal viability, you do not reduce the number of abortions, but rather increase the number of unsafe, potentially life-endangering abortions. So the bigger question should be “How do we keep women safe?” rather than “How do we stop women from getting abortions?”
Thirdly, you should never force a rape victim to keep the child born out of such a traumatic event if she does not want to. She has already suffered one of the most horrendous ordeals she most likely will ever face, and to continue that torture any further is not only cruel, but inhumane. You also can’t make the destruction of ‘life’ permissible sometimes, and other times not, so by default, you can’t make abortion illegal if for nothing else, to protect victims of sexual assault.
Additionally, there are already over 100,000 children in the United States waiting for adoption. Until we have more seeking parents than seeking children, I do not understand why people push the adoption option. What point is there in saving a life if you are not guaranteeing its happy and healthy future? Which brings me about to my biggest point against the ‘pro-life’ movement: nothing about pro-life endeavors extends beyond the womb to protect children. Food stamps? Screw that. CHIP?! Never! Welfare? Abomination!! Raising the minimum to afford basic human needs?!? INSANITY! But don’t you dare abort that fetus. If being pro-life was really about protecting and valuing life, there are much better ways to go about it, such as the above-mentioned social issues. And, more importantly, if we stopped preventing easy and affordable access to contraception and other forms of pregnancy prevention, we would have many more pregnancies prevented, rather than aborted (which is something pro-lifers seem disinclined to understand or acknowledge).
For all these reasons, I stand by a woman’s right to choose, regardless of the other viable options. No one should be forced to physically undergo something as demanding and potentially dangerous as pregnancy unless it’s actually what she wants.
This is the Memorial to the Missing and contains over 50,000,000 pennies to represent the lives of each American child abandoned to abortion by a society and a culture that has embraced their destruction. We must prevent the need to add to this memorial. Take a stand. Get involved.
”How we treat the least of us defines us.”
"should I use this $500k to help struggling parents and pregnant people or should I put it in a glass box"
How much money have you wasted that could’ve gone to help struggling parents and pregnant women is the better question to ask.
Yeah if i was a struggling parent and I saw that “monument”, you know what I’d do? Break into that fucker and use the money to help my kid get a better life.
Clearly those “charitable” folks aren’t using it on kids that have actually been born.
A few facts that the OP neglected to mention.
a) The glass box is on the grounds of the Mississippi Baptist Convention building—right across from the Mississippi state capitol. It was placed there deliberately to remind legislators that the Baptist Church—which is very powerful in the South—is staunchly anti-abortion.
b) This wasn’t created by regular people, charitable or otherwise. It was a deliberate and high-profile project of the Convention. Using the services of a construction company that worked free of charge, they erected the glass box in 2006, putting 47 MILLION pennies in it on the day that it opened, thus creating the illusion that many, many people had contributed.
c) Once $500K was collected—back in 2008, by the way, and the photo dates back to 2007—the money was then spent by the Convention, which invested it on a permanent endowment fund for anti-abortion causes, such as assisting with the operations of crisis pregnancy centers.
d) Almost all crisis pregnancy centers are church-sponsored and evangelical in nature.
e) Most crisis pregnancy centers have ties to evangelical maternity homes, adoption lawyers, and private adoption agencies. Any crisis that a woman coming to such a center might be facing would be irrelevant; for the purposes of the center and its affiliates, it is paramount that she have the baby. Babies, especially healthy white babies, are in high demand by would-be adoptive parents, and there is a very small supply. There are horror stories about women who have been forced continue pregnancies and who have been forced to relinquish, most to evangelical families. Evangelical churches support and encourage this kind of thing. They figure that this way, they win twice over: they save lives AND they get to control how the next generation thinks.
f) So, to recap.The Baptist Church underwrites the memorial (at least the first 47 million). The funds eventually go back to the Baptist Church, which invests them in businesses that will help produce more goods—babies—for other evangelical businesses, such as adoption agencies and adoption lawyers, AND that will create more religious and political support in the future.
This is NOT a memorial created by heartbroken people, OP. It’s big business.
Wow. What the actual rusty fuck.
— bell hooks, Communion: The Female Search for Love (via a-golden-lasso-of-my-own)
Okay so in Sweden we have the words “släcka” and “blunda” but you english speaking ppl don’t have a word for “turning out the lights” or “close one’s eyes” do you even sleep?
"why can’t we have STRAIGHT pride events?"
that’s called almost every single prom king/queen election, romance movie, introduction of a new love interest on a television show, famous wedding, and almost everything else on the planet involving romance that wasn’t explicitly MADE for the sake of being lgbtq+ oriented
this is also why “white history month” doesn’t exist.
I’ll respect your opinion as long as your opinion doesn’t disrespect my existence.
THIS PHRASE SHOULD BE WRITTEN EVERYWHERE AROUND THE WORLD
If you aren’t totally quaking in your boots at the news of millions of bees dead, yet again, you’re nuts.
this should be concerning a lot more people than it is
not only because bees are one of the most important animals in the world and their job is a lot more than gathering honey but also because they are what scientists refer to as an “indicator species”
this means that when their populations start dwindling and then rapidly dropping, humans need to watch their shit because that means that environmental factors are too difficult for THEM to live in, so it might be difficult for US to live in, too. bees basically act as an indication that humans have a lot to worry about and when they start dying like this it deserves a lot more than a few headlines.
last year my biggest worry was the steep decline in bee population and apparently thats not about to change anytime soon. people have told me to my face that they think its strange I’m so concerned for the bees. read this you selfish fucks
Get excited, motherfuckers. Without bees, we will die off. Bayer and Monsanto continue to produce the chemicals that have been proven to kill them, and the government has their backs. Bees pollinate 30% of our food in the US and we are passing legislation to PROTECT the scumbags responsible for killing them.
I preach this shit to everyone who will listen and I always get “WAAAAH I HATE BEES THEY STING AND THEY ARE BIG MEANIES!” but think about your future life without kiwis, cranberries, blueberries, strawberries, blackberries, peaches, sunflowers, cotton, apples, plums, pears, mustard, celery, peppers, tomatoes, eggplant, beans, cherries, melons, turnips, canola oil, alfalfa, soybeans, lemons, oranges, and I could go on forever.
Bees are amazing creatures who are responsible for the comfortable lives we lead in this country and we cannot sustain and feed our population without them.
Alright you guys, there’s a good amount of notes on this but it’s only making us aware of the problem, not telling us what we can do to help. We can do something to help and YOU CAN HELP, YES THAT MEANS YOU. ALL YOU NEED IS DIRT, A FEW BUCKS, AND A MOMENT OF YOUR TIME TO MAKE A WORLD OF DIFFERENCE, LITERALLY.
Plant flowers that bees like and that attract them.
Bees prefer flowers that are blue, purple, and yellow. Choose flowers that bloom successively over the spring, summer, and fall seasons such as coreopsis, Russian sage, or germander. They especially love clover! Other plants include sage, salvia, oregano, lavender, ironweed, yarrow, yellow hyssop, alfalfa, honeywort, dragonhead, echinacea, bee balm, buttercup, goldenrod and English thyme. Buy seeds online.
GET RID OF THE PESTICIDES!!
If pesticides are killing off the bees so easily, what do you think it’s doing to us? The EPA says studies have shown pesticides can cause birth defects, nerve damage, and cancer. There are other ways to get rid of pests in the garden than using chemicals. Organic Garden Pests shows you how to keep off the bugs the organic way.
Give the bees a free home!
Please, if you have already reblogged this, reblog this is again with what I have posted onto it so you know what you can do to help. We can make a difference.
Sources and other helpful links:
Quick mention of the Xerces Society for Invertebrate Conservation, a nonprofit group doing a LOT of good work for bees and other pollinators, among others.
Guys, if all the bees died we’d have FOUR YEARS to live.
Listen, I don’t think you’re an asshole who thinks it’s funny to do something that women find scary. You’ve been raised to think that this sort of stuff is all in good fun. Not by your parents necessarily, but by culture. You’ve grown up in a country where a Super Bowl commercial for Audi suggests that girls your age actually like it when a guy they don’t really know grabs and forces a kiss on them. (Seriously - they won’t like this.) You’ve been raised in a culture that positions women as existing just for sex, for humiliation, for objectification.
So please understand that I don’t blame you for partaking in the only kind of culture you’ve ever known. At least, I don’t blame you yet. Because here’s the thing - if you didn’t realize before that this kind of stuff is harmful and hurtful to women, now you do. So think of this as a chance to make a decision about what kind of man you’re going to be.
As you continue to grow up, you’re going to have plenty of opportunities (too many) to laugh at women’s pain, embarrassment or the sexual harassment and assault we face. These moments will define you. Will you laugh along? Share a video, like a status, laugh a joke? Or will you say ‘no’, tell a friend that’s a fucked up thing to say, and walk away?”
— To My Male Relatives on Facebook Who ‘Like’ Sexism, my latest at The Nation (via jessicavalenti)